S1 | E18 Amy Anesi - Dear Friend & Former Spouse

This season-one finale of The Permission Slip is a deeply honest, unsanitized conversation between me and my former wife, Amy Anesi. We were married for 15 years, raised two daughters together, divorced after an affair, endured bankruptcy and foreclosure in the wake of the 2008 financial collapse—and then chose a different path forward.

Instead of turning divorce into a lifelong war story, we explore what it looks like to take responsibility, metabolize pain, and consciously evolve beyond blame. This episode challenges the dominant cultural narrative that divorce must be ugly, adversarial, and permanently scarring. It doesn’t.

With Amy as both witness and mirror, I share my own arc—from childhood conditioning and emotional repression, through infidelity, trauma, and collapse, into somatic healing, psychedelic therapy, nervous-system work, and spiritual awakening. What emerges is not a story of redemption, but of integration.

This is a conversation about accountability without self-flagellation, healing without spiritual bypass, and what becomes possible when two people choose growth over grievance—for themselves and for their children.